How Real Desires are Determined

I love to read over old posts at Good Vibe Blog. There is so much information there.

I came across this comment on one post and it explained a lot of questions I had about how our desires are determined through Law of Attraction, even though some of our desires seem to compete with each other (like my desire to both travel AND build a house.)

On Good Vibe Blog - From: M Kenneth Petruzzi on April 11, 2011 at 6:16 am (Word Vibes)

I think that the term "You manifest what you think about" or "We get what we pay attention to" works conceptually as well as literally. In other words, since the Universe is brilliantly creative, and each of us always has competing desires going on at any given time, the Universe answers all things in a brilliantly creative way that fits within our consensus reality in a way that considers all our desires and energy diversions at any given time, and serves all.

Kenneth goes on to explain a comment that one coach uses in his teachings. The comment is that if we truly became what we constantly thought about, that he would have become a cheerleader in high school.

Kenneth says that while that person may not actually BECOME a cheerleader, that he would definitely have noticed them more than usual, maybe even dated one.

And that is how our desires are met, even what seem to be conflicting desires.

We don't necessarily want something tangible. We want how we think it will make us feel.

A boy thinking about cheerleaders wants to feel good about himself. He wants the attention of a pretty girl. He may have a belief that dating a cheerleader will make him more popular, so that is what he really wants.

I don't necessarily want to live permanently on the road in an RV. What I want is the freedom to explore that choice, the freedom to come and go. That is what I'm really looking for. Freedom to choose where to go, what to see, the excitement of a new place and new experience. But I also want the choice to stay home where things are familiar and have that experience. Ultimately, it all comes down to having the freedom to make my own decisions about how I spend my time.

(Freedom - I think I'm going to call that my 'soul' word. It is really resonating with me)

What are some conflicting desires you may have? Think about what you may really want instead, what feeling you're after.

And while you're doing that, think back to your past where you thought you wanted something in particular but got something different, but just as satisfying.

Like the song says,

You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need.

Resting, Resting

Even with everything that I have learned over the last year about LOA and about myself and all the changes that have been happening, there are still difficulties in life. There are still frustration. There is still disappointment. There are still issues to overcome. The difference, though, is that I am different. I am recognizing patterns in myself that have been formed over the past 40 years, patterns formed at home with family, at school with teachers and classmates, patterns formed with co-workers, patterns formed with my husband and my son. Some patterns can be good and helpful, like a routine. But other patterns can be harmful, and I'm having to face my own limited beliefs and my own behavior within those patterns because that is all that I can control.

There are a lot of techniques learned in the study of LOA-- meditation, vision boards, journaling, affirmations, and probably more that I just haven't learned about yet. But there has to come a time when you just have to stop and believe. Dreams are coming true. Changes are being made. Looking back over time it's easier to see them. Living through the changes, day after day, we are too close to them. We aren't seeing the forest because we're only seeing the trees right in front of us.

During the church service on Mother's Day there was a song that touched this part of me, the part of me that is still trying so hard to do this right, even as I know there is no "right" way to do anything. These are all just tools, all just ways to feel good, to feel better. But sometimes we just need to be in the moment, right now, and stop trying to "make" something happen. Sometimes we just need to believe. Our blessings are here, right now, and more are coming.

The song is Jesus, I am Resting, Resting. The verse follows:

Simply trusting thee, Lord Jesus, I behold the as thou art.
And thy love so pure, so changeless, satisfies my heart.
Satisfies its deepest longings, meets, supplies its every need.
Compasseth me round with blessings, thine is love indeed.

Abraham Hicks on Allowing & Co-Creating

This kind of hit at me based on what I have been feeling and what I posted a couple of days ago. I do believe I need to take the time to be in alignment, even if it's only a few minutes a day. "Allow them, whether they allow me or not." Very powerful.

Forgetting the Power

As time has gone on and life is moving day by day, I am forgetting the things that I learned this time last year. I am letting events dictate how I react instead of creating my world and dictating the events.

It is very hard to co-create with someone. I want one thing, they want something else, and yet other people want other things. This is one of the most frustrating things about manifesting and LOA for me. When I have to wait on another person and I spend days affirming -- they will call today. The job is his. This will be our house. Then to continue waiting, waiting, waiting and then finally having to let go. That is very hard. But obviously, we are co-creating with other people. Those other people have meetings, they have dreams and goals and things they want to create as well. So they are paying attention to those things right in front of them and apparently by doing so they are creating a more powerful intention than I am. 

But I am only responsible for me. So I think over the next couple of weeks I'm going to revisit some of the books I've read, I'm going to watch The Secret again and remind myself of the power that I do have. I signed up for the 21 day meditation and I've only done one day. I need to take that time for myself, to get myself in alignment, and feel that peace.

Things are happening

I love that feeling when you know things are happening, when the Universe is moving and everything is coming into alignment.

We've been praying for my husband to have a job locally for some time. Right now he's driving an hour to work daily. He got a tip on a job that pays double what he makes now and is open very soon. The only thing is -- the place is 2 1/2 hours away.

But we're up for it. Even though we love our historic home that we're renting and we love the area, we believe we know why we weren't able to buy the property we saw last year. We are believing that things are happening.

In Harmonic Wealth, James Arthur Ray discusses something called the Law of Gender - everything has a gestation period. Yes, some things may manifest almost immediately, but if you're trying to manifest $100,000 it's going to take some time. He also makes another point - if you did manifest $100,000 immediately, and you're not the person at this point in time that can handle $100,000, then the money will slip through your fingers. I believe that we are becoming people that can have $100,000 and take care of it.

I still have my check I made out to myself for $100,000. With this job, we will be halfway there. 

I am seeing how much our mindset is changing as well, starting with looking at the houses for sale around us. All are about $300,000 and we're getting into the mindset that yes, one day we could own a house like that. But imagine our surprise when we found a house with all the features we said we wanted for half that price within 10 miles of the potential new job.

It meets the following criteria:

• Privacy
• Built in 1975 (Husband's thing)
• Fireplace (mine)
• Circular tower room
• Fenced yard for our dog
• Near water
• Partially finished basement (for the "man cave")
• Open kitchen / dining room 
• Sauna (again, husband's thing)
• Close to town but not too close
• Small, easily kept up yard
• Big enough to roam around in and enjoy the space

We are printing out the photos and we're going to make a vision board for the house. We should hear back next week about the job and then plans can get under way.

What is amazing is that we had been talking about buying or building a house and said we didn't know if we could go over $100,000. With this new job, we can easily afford $150,000. However, we have LOA on our side, so we're going to also intend that the price will drop and it will be available when we have the down payment.

The list of features that we came up with never came from specifically writing anything down. It was all just stuff we happened to mention to each other here and there - except the 1970s thing, hubby kept that one to himself. But I love the uniqueness of the house - it's custom made - and we're looking forward to things changing up a bit.

Affirmations:

We are so happy to live in the house on Ranier Road.
We are thrilled to have paid only $100,000 for this house.
We are so thankful that it was still on the market. 
We are so grateful that everything with the purchase and the move went smoothly.
We are happy that everything is working well in the house.
We enjoy seeing our dog run in the fenced in yard.
We are looking forward to redecorating and turning it into our forever home.

Are things changing up for you? I hope so!

Games to play for the new year, new month

Affirmations are one of my favorite things to do, so I am always up for a new way to play the affirmation game.

I read of one person on Good Vibe Blog that does a new moon wish list. It's just basically a list of things she wanted to manifest over the next month. Here's how it works.

On the new moon, write out a short list of things you want to manifest over the next month. Put down whatever you want. I like to look at my "big" dream list, the one my husband and I created together, and pick
out a few things.

Some things to remember - we don't hold an attachment to the outcome of those things. These are things we'd just like to see happen but if they happen this month or next month, it's okay. The game just helps us focus a little bit and maybe notice a bit more of what is happening around us, what we are manifesting around
us.

The next game I read about in Abraham Hicks' book Ask and it is Given.

At the end of the year write a letter to yourself. Date it for one year from today. Write the letter talking about all the wonderful things that have happened and write them as if they have already happened. Seal it up and address it to yourself. Put it in a safe place where it won't be lost.

In December of next year, mail the letter to yourself. Don't open it and save a stamp. There's just something about recieving the letter in the mailbox. You'll be ready to open that letter and there will be this wonderful feeling of anticipation around it. Open it and read it. And you will see what has happened in your life over the past year. You'll see things that have manifested that you forgot you even asked for.

Alternative to this game - use the website Futureme.org.  You can write yourself an email and it will be delivered to you on the day that you choose. Be sure to use an email address that you'll be checking in a year. I've already written my letter out longhand, but I'll be using the electronic version next year.

These are two wonderful manifesting games you can play, right here, right now, as we head into a new month and a new year. It's the perfect time to start building your new life.

Have a Happy New Year!

When things don't seem to be happening

Sometimes it seems as though LOA isn't working. Maybe some small things are working, but the big ones, they seem to be staying out of reach. We don't know why. Is there anything we can do?

We feel we have to do something, we need to make that manifestation appear. But in reality we cannot do anything. We have to do what we can, then stop and let go. I know that's easier said than done.

At the time I'm writing this we're still waiting for my husband's final paycheck from November. His direct deposit wasn't input on time for payday and they mailed a paper check. Every day we are checking the mailbox. No check. Every day we talked about what we were going to do with the money. Pay our bills, buy groceries. But no check.

So we check our feelings about not having the check. We're frustrated, we're angry at the company, at the post office. We name the feelings and let them out.

We are thankful for what is happening. I get three checks this month, so we were able to pay the final bills for November. We had food in the cabinets. We had enough gas money to get back and forth to work. We are noticing what is happening and what is working.

We played the "wouldn't it be nice if..." game.

We had a fun Saturday at a friend's wedding, even though it was an hour away and we had discussed issues with gas for this week

We visualized getting the check in the mailbox, how happy and relieved we would be when it came.

But still no check. And now payroll is saying a new check should be in by Thursday. So we're waiting and we're letting it go. There is nothing more we can do.

But I believe that even though it looks like nothing is happening, it is. Something is happening. It may be something we cannot see yet. But down the road, we will find out why this happened. And even though we
didn't have the money in November when it was planned, it will come when it's meant to be here. And in the meantime, all our needs have been provided. We have food, we have gas, the bills are paid.

To help us continue to be thankful and grateful, we are reading these verses and affirmations: 

Heb 13:5: Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."

Phil 4:19: And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.

Eph 6:13b ...and after you have done everything, to stand.


Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forward -- Kierkegaard

Something's Coming - Westside Story

It's only just out of reach,
Down the block, on a beach,
Under a tree.
I got a feeling there's a miracle due,
Gonna come true,
Coming to me!

So keep holding on. Keep waiting. Stay strong. Believe, with no doubt, something is working. Something is happening. Look for the clues. Look for what is happening in your life, what is manifesting. You may find it's closer than you think.

The blog name

I thought it would be fun to show how the Law of Attraction has worked in other ways in my life. So I thought I would share how I came up with the name for this blog.

I'd been reading a lot of information about LOA and was having fun with it. I was doing a lot of little things and enjoying myself with it. I would play with finding a good parking spot, being able to get out into traffic easily, stopping the rain long enough to get inside. Yes, you can use the Law of Attraction for all of that stuff - and more.

One particular thing I did at the grocery store was notice at the end of my grocery list that I still needed ketchup. I was at the far end of the store, in the frozen food section, and I thought, "I need ketchup."
But I didn't want to walk to the middle of the store again. Well, I turned around the last aisle and right there at the frozen potatoes there was a display of ketchup.

So one day at work I'd had lunch and wanted something sweet. I was telling my sweetie via text that I wanted a cookie. We started talking about what kind of cookies we liked - chocolate chip, peanut butter, oatmeal raisin. We had fun with it. After work my son picked me up. He'd used the car that day to volunteer that day. When I got into the car he handed me a Little Debbie oatmeal cookie. The volunteer coordinator had given him a couple and he brought me and his dad one.

I started laughing and told him about the texts I'd shared with his dad earlier about wanting a cookie. I told my sweetie that I had manifested cookies for us.

Many things have happened in my life similar to the ketchup and cookie incident. A random, fleeting thought would eventually manifest. In the past I didn't even notice. If I did, I said it was coincidence. But I am being more aware now of incidents such as that.  I know now that there is no such thing as coincidence.