It Only Matters That I Feel Good

I've been reading Good Vibe Blog for some time and finally it hit home.

It's the feeling I'm after, nothing else.

It's not the extended travel. It's not the custom built house. It's not being self-employed. It's not being a writer. It's not having a flexible job. 

It's what I believe those things will feel like. And if I focus on feeling good now, feeling those feelings now, then I don't have to worry about the how, what, where, when and why. They will all come with time.

It has finally sunken in :)

So where does that leave affirmations, visualizing, my white board, journaling, specific things I do want?

If those things feel good to do, then I will do them. And I will appreciate what I already have and know that other things will come to me at the right time. There is nothing I need to "do" to receive these things except feel good.

What about action? I mean, don't I need to do something to receive something? If I want to earn a living as a writer, I need to write and get something out there, right? Won't that take work and time and commitment? 


Well, my first short story that sold was written on inspiration within half an hour. It sold on my first submission. So when inspired to take action, I will do so. This may mean working on something new or something old. It also means, for me, setting aside time each day for projects. The only difference is that whatever I work on that day can't feel like a chore or yet more work to do. 

My husband says I have too many projects going right now. I have at least four projects. But I enjoy them all. I don't want to stop working on any of them. And I don't have to. They all make me feel good. And if the attention on the projects has an ebb and flow, that's okay too.  It's when I'm trying to work on the projects and get grumpy
and irritable when I need to stop working on them and take a break, and I need to be able to recognize that. Then projects become a chore, then it's time to relax and remember to have fun and feel good.

Thanks, Jeannette and all Good Vibe Blog contributors


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To Intend or Not to Intend - Are We Trying Too Hard?

There is so much sometimes to Law of Attraction. Even on this blog I talk about affirmations, prepaving your day, vision boards, positive thinking. But is it too much? How do we know?

We know when it becomes stressful. When you are planning your day and you worry if you'll find time to meditate or visualize your goals, or get upset that you didn't write in your gratitude journal or your pray rain journal or you forgot to prepave while in the shower this morning. If doing any of the processes becomes a chore then it's too much.

A process is just a process. That is all. Abraham Hicks says that the processes they give in Ask and It Is Given are to help us release resistance. That is all. The processes are not magical. They are to help us expect our manifestations. They are to help us stay positive and grateful and happy so that we can welcome the manifestation when it comes. If doing the process becomes a chore, then it adds resistance instead of taking it away.

Are you trying to handle too many processes? Are you always trying something new? Remember that it's not the process that matters. It's the feelings behind the process.

If you feel that you are too stressed out with whatever LoA processes you are doing, then stop. Just stop. Just enjoy your day. If you want to write in your journal, do it. If you want to meditate, then do it. But don't do it because you feel you have to in order to make LoA work. The Law of Attraction works no matter what you do. What is important is how you feel. So pamper yourself today and relax. Your desires are already known. Let yourself relax in expectation of receiving them now.

When things don't seem to be happening

Sometimes it seems as though LOA isn't working. Maybe some small things are working, but the big ones, they seem to be staying out of reach. We don't know why. Is there anything we can do?

We feel we have to do something, we need to make that manifestation appear. But in reality we cannot do anything. We have to do what we can, then stop and let go. I know that's easier said than done.

At the time I'm writing this we're still waiting for my husband's final paycheck from November. His direct deposit wasn't input on time for payday and they mailed a paper check. Every day we are checking the mailbox. No check. Every day we talked about what we were going to do with the money. Pay our bills, buy groceries. But no check.

So we check our feelings about not having the check. We're frustrated, we're angry at the company, at the post office. We name the feelings and let them out.

We are thankful for what is happening. I get three checks this month, so we were able to pay the final bills for November. We had food in the cabinets. We had enough gas money to get back and forth to work. We are noticing what is happening and what is working.

We played the "wouldn't it be nice if..." game.

We had a fun Saturday at a friend's wedding, even though it was an hour away and we had discussed issues with gas for this week

We visualized getting the check in the mailbox, how happy and relieved we would be when it came.

But still no check. And now payroll is saying a new check should be in by Thursday. So we're waiting and we're letting it go. There is nothing more we can do.

But I believe that even though it looks like nothing is happening, it is. Something is happening. It may be something we cannot see yet. But down the road, we will find out why this happened. And even though we
didn't have the money in November when it was planned, it will come when it's meant to be here. And in the meantime, all our needs have been provided. We have food, we have gas, the bills are paid.

To help us continue to be thankful and grateful, we are reading these verses and affirmations: 

Heb 13:5: Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you."

Phil 4:19: And my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus.

Eph 6:13b ...and after you have done everything, to stand.


Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forward -- Kierkegaard

Something's Coming - Westside Story

It's only just out of reach,
Down the block, on a beach,
Under a tree.
I got a feeling there's a miracle due,
Gonna come true,
Coming to me!

So keep holding on. Keep waiting. Stay strong. Believe, with no doubt, something is working. Something is happening. Look for the clues. Look for what is happening in your life, what is manifesting. You may find it's closer than you think.

Is it your button to push?

When I started my job I wanted to please everyone. I tried very hard not to make mistakes and to do well. However, I apparently stepped on some toes with the training director. I had been starting the training videos for the new employees. My justification was the training director was often late, sometimes as much as an hour. So why should everyone wait on her to get there when they could be watching the video and starting on the test?

Well, her response was, "I got it." So I said fine. I then decided to do my part of the job, which was providing the training materials. If she was an hour late, it could no longer be my problem. It was hard for me to accept that, though. I didn't see the big deal. I mean, it was just pushing a button. But then my counselor asked me something - "Is it your button to push?"

How many of us keep thinking that we have to do everything? We have to keep up with a job, kids, housework, paying bills. But do we have to? Is everything truly "our button to push?"

Part of taking care of ourselves and finding our feel good is accepting that there are things we do well and things we most likely need to automate or let someone else take over. I have decided to do just that.

As much as possible, all finances will be automated. Within six months I'm planning that I will only need a cursory look to be sure things are on track. I'm splitting housework with my husband and son. We're all doing a share, not just me. We are also splitting up cooking dinner and arranging for at least one night to be a takeout night. I am using my crockpot more as well. Within the next year, I also plan to have a housekeeping service come in at least once a month, building it to twice monthly, and possibly having someone to do yard work next spring and summer.

Take care of yourself as much as possible and delegate what you can. Do what you do best and let other people push their own buttons.

What I got from Four Hour Work Week

The book was interesting and it did lead me to clarify some things about my life. It made me think about my time and what I'm good at, what I'd rather be doing. I don't think I'm going to get a VA from India, as that goes against my values. If I were to hire an assistant, which I most likely will do when I become a successful author, I will hire someone from the US, either a VA or a local person to work with directly.

But I have decided on a few things based on the book. Again, I have to remind myself it's not action that matters. It's how I feel about things.

First, I know it's time to stop my evening transcription service. I want to spend that time on my writing, time with my family and other interests. That feels right.

I also want to see what can be automated more so that I don't have to feel like I'm doing everything. Some ideas were:

Maid service twice a month. Look into cost and see about fitting into budget.
Setting up everything on automatic bill pay.
Taking turns with family members on making meals.
Preparing work clothes ahead of time. For example, hang up a week's
worth of outfits, with some options for weather available, in the
closet, ready to go. Have accessories and everything else needed on
hand as well.
Limit time spent on things like television, Facebook, etc.
Go to bed / get up earlier.
Leave 10 minutes earlier than needed for appointments.

While the book's main purpose seems to be to lead people to finding a way to earn money without a traditional job and travel all over the world, that is not a primary goal for me, although I do want to travel. My ultimate goal is to live a wonderful, beautiful, abundant and creative life. And I know that being able to cut some of the day to day stuff from my life will free me up to follow creative pursuits and spend time with people I love. And that feels right to me.

How do I feel?

As I said I'm reading the 4 Hour Work Week. And I'm feeling excited and happy and positive, but I'm also feeling scared. And whenever I feel like this I know I need to back off a little bit. I'm trying to do things differently. And one thing that all LOA people / deliberate creators need to think about is this:

How do I feel.

It's feelings that go along with our creation. Our actions don't really matter. It's the feelings attached to the actions.

So I feel I need to slow down. I don't want to go full steam ahead and spend money and start the whole cycle that was a big part of ruining my marriage up again.

I like that the book is giving rules when it comes to our "muse", which Tim Ferriss calls a business. So I'm going to take the rules to heart and slow down. Nothing says I have to start right now. I also don't need to take my eye off my goal - to be a successful writer. Or my even bigger goal - to live a wonderful, beautiful,
creative life. One that I already feel I am living, even in the context of working at an entry level assistant position at 40 years old. So why change anything?

Because I don't want to work at an entry level assistant position for the next 27 years before I can retire. A big part of my wonderful, beautiful creative life includes having an income that I don't have to be concerned about.

So I'll finish the book. I'll do the research. I'll slow down. And I'll use prayer and faith and LOA to warn me if I'm heading too far off the path.

Wondeful LOA for Business call

I am so glad that Jeannette Maw does free calls as part of her Good Vibe U program. You can find the schedule here:

http://goodvibeblog.com/free-calls/

I can't attend them all, but I was lucky to find this one as part of her new section at Good Vibe U, LOA for Business. Merry Moola was the host for this call.

I got a lot out of the call, stuff that I knew deep down but it was good hearing someone else say similar things that I knew to be true.

Some things that she said that hit me:

Make a list of what having a successful business looks like. Even in doing that, though, it's not the words you use. It's the feeling behind them. Hold on to those beliefs.

Even though it appears that things aren't going your way, it doesn't necessarily mean that's the case.

Own your space - own your business space (To me, that means keep your identity as a business owner even though you may have to do something else right now to pay the bills. For example, I may work in an office now, but that is not me. I am a writer. I am a blogger. That is who I am, not an administrative assistant. Own that, and keep that part of you separate.)

Consider work that you do to pay the bills while building your business a temporary thing. Be clear inside yourself that it's not forever.

Make an intention on how your schedule will be and how it will work out. Create the environment you want for your business.

Let go of speedy. That is attachment. Let go of quickly and easily. She changed her words to happily and easily instead.

Practice if necessary. Practice sales calls, etc.

Affirmations:
Work is easy to find. 
It's all working out in perfect time.
I love my life.
I'm happier.
Things are fabulous and getting better.
I feel good.
I am happy to have so much time even with a successful business.
I have plenty of money.
I am healthy and happy and I feel really, really good.

You may have to do something to earn money to pay the bills, but that will change your attachment to the money. That will release the need for the money, for the business to grow. If it gives you relief from the money stress, that's good. If it gives you more stress, that's bad. So you have to do what feels good to you for your situation. Give up the need for clients, for money. A temporary job can help release that need.

Law of attraction will reflect back to you how you feel about something, how you feel about everything. If you feel stress in your work, then that's what you will get back. If you feel relief, that's what you will get back.

For my question, regarding my husband wanting to become a locksmith and start a business, these were her suggestions.

Take it slow. Look at the industry, look at different options. Get the training done. The longer you sit with an idea the longer the energy has to form around it. Wait and act when it's important to move forward, but go slowly. Build momentum. Talk to each other about how the business will look, who will do what. Practice some scripting, make a list of our ideal locksmith business. Get on the same page with that goal.

Then there was a question about where to start with LOA. She suggested Bob Doyle's Wealth Beyond Reason. 

She stated that we must believe that what we desire will happen. If we say something to ourself and end it with, yeah, she can say that but it's not true, then we need some belief work. We attract what we believe.

Merry's website is Law of Sales Attraction.  I know I'll be spending some time there.