My brother-in-law is a policeman. He's assigned to traffic duty, which means he spends the majority of his time doing various things like issuing traffic tickets but he also investigates accidents.
Each time we visit, we hear a new story about an accident. Sometimes they are funny, sometimes they are devastating. And I understand why he talks about them. To get some of what you see as a policeman out of your head, you need to talk.
But each time we've visited, we've either seen accidents while leaving town or had a few close calls -- someone merging into our lane and not seeing us or stopping suddenly.
We don't want to tell him not to tell the stories, but it is obviously reaching us in some way so that we manifest seeing or experiencing an accident of some type. This doesn't help me, since I have anxiety in large cities and in high traffic situations.
Before we go back for another visit, we have a plan set up to avoid accident stories and not let them come into our personal experience.
1. Set an intention that BIL will not discuss an accident.
Since we know that we are co-creating, BIL's intention may be stronger than ours, so --
2. If he does start a story, I will excuse myself to the kitchen or bathroom for a moment.
3. If still telling it when I return, we'll steer the subject to something else, something more positive.
4. Set intention that no matter what BIL says or believes - because with his job he's now seeing accidents everywhere, so it's now part of his belief system that they're inevitable - we will trust that we will be safe and that other drivers around us will also be safe.
Are there things that your friends or families discuss that you do not want as part of your belief system? How are you handling those situations?